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Pay attention to the parents who live in the child communication problem!
We have mentioned the points you should pay attention to when spending time with your child in our previous article.
Do we want to start by making a mistake on parenting?
Most of the time, parents trust their parenting instincts and do not try to get help with problems with their children. Unfortunately, as a parent, we may often not be able to correctly understand how to behave in situations we face, and sometimes make mistakes in communicating with our children.
In the following, we can overcome the most common 7 common mistakes in parenting and provide more effective family communication.
Not trying to solve problems
Thinking that some problems cannot be solved or accepting them easily can cause parents to be disappointed with these problems for years. These can often occur as wake-up nights, sleep-time discussions, tantrums, and behavior disorders in older children.
For some problems you may encounter as parents, you can get help, work on these problems and change them. Your child may not be born with a manual, but it may be helpful to consult a specialist for ongoing and difficult-to-solve problems.
Grow or underestimate problems
Before attempting to solve the problems, the problem should be determined very well and what is the problem and how big the problem is. If it is a big problem, the following questions should be asked:
Does your child suffer from anger at times?
If your child is a teenager, is he testing his limits?
Does he spend a lot of time away from his family or is he trying to be more independent?
To have unrealistic expectations
If you have unrealistic expectations about what your child should do, it can actually lead to various problems.
These are examples of waiting for your 2.5-year-old child to complete toilet training. Remember that your expectations may not match what your child may develop or do. In such cases, what age your child can do, what kind of psychological changes can be consulted a specialist should be consulted and expectations should be adjusted, should not be treated hastily.
Not being consistent
As a parent, approaching your child with inconsistent behavior may cause you to experience many problems with your child. Sometimes it seems very strict not to care what your child is doing, but at other times, it may cause your child not to distinguish what is right and what is expected, and not to understand what is expected of him / her or how to behave.
No rules and no limits
You can think that your child is doing your child good by doing whatever you want. However, most children may experience problems with living without borders.
Having rules, setting limits, consistent routines and offering limited options to your child allow your child to learn what to expect and what to expect throughout the day.
Pass against the counter
Passing against an attack is not only about physically fighting with your child, but observing them in many ways, such as getting angry with them, shouting, repeating yourself over and over again.
Fighting or discussing with your child may give them the message that they have the power to trigger these harsh reactions. Responding with such behaviors instead of trying to terminate the problems means that you reward the wrong behavior that you are trying to terminate without realizing it.
It would be a better option to end these power discussions and learn more effective disciplinary methods rather than counter-attack.
Not changing the methods that don’t work
Failure to identify or change methods that you do not use in parenting can create problems at the first stage in solving problems.
For example, the method you use to adjust your sleep routine does not work, and if your child is tired all day long when you wake up the next day, this is an indication that you need a new method of sending your child to sleep.
If you are having problems with family communication on these 7 issues and similar issues, it is useful to consult a child and adolescent psychiatrist.
For more information please contact our Child and Adolescent Mental Health (Psychiatry) department.
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